How to Do the 69 Position

Author: Suzie Harris

Here are some hints on how to get started:

* For the 69 position to work, both partners have to be lying upside down, head to toe. There are 2 main positions. The first is with one person lying on their back and the partner on top so you are both facing each others genitals. The person on top uses their elbows to hold the weight of their body as they perform oral sex to their partner. The other common position is with both partners lying on your side. The benefit of this position is you can rest your heads on each other’s thighs..comfy!

* Once you are comfortable, it’s time to get started. One of the hardest things about mutual oral sex is sometimes it is hard to concentrate on giving oral sex when you are receiving it. The pleasure is that strong that you lose focus on what you are doing to your partner. Especially if you are new to this position and you are not used to giving and receiving, then you can take it in turns of pleasing one another. You don’t necessarily have to be pleasing each other at the same time, you can work your way up to this.

* If you are in this situation and not used to giving and receiving, then using sex toys can help you. If you are going to take it in turn of giving, then using sex toys is great so your partner is still receiving pleasure. For girls, vibrators are a great toy. The famous iVibe Rabbit is great to play with. This product will keep her pleased and aroused while she concentrates on the licking. Fingering her is also a great way to keep her aroused. The Adam & Eve 5X Finger Vibe With 4 PleasureSkin Sleeves is fantastic. With these finger sleeves, you can keep her aroused and excited as she pleases you.

* Sex toys that are great to use on guys are anal beads and butt plugs. Play with him as he is concentrating on the licking. The Dr Joel Prostate Massager is fantastic as it reaches the male prostate zone. The Joy Toy 9" Vibrating Beaded Butt Plug Purple is also a great toy to play with. The toys are great as it means they are still receiving pleasure while they give it to you.

* Even better, when you have got used to mutual satisfaction, then keep using the toys in conjunction with your mouth – this adds extra pleasure.

* Remember to communicate with your partner when you are in the 69 position. Listen for moans and groans to find out where they like the attention the most. If you are not sure, ask. Some girls like all the attention on the clitoris, whereas others like it all around the vaginal area, and with some attention paid to their butt. Guys sometimes like all attention on their penis, others like it all over including on the balls. Make sure that you and your partner are making the most of the 69 position by asking and experimenting with what you like.

* Take it in turns of who is on top and who is on the bottom. For some girls they prefer to be on the top as they can control where they want the focus to be. They can maneuver themselves so your tongue is focused where they want it.

* Other little toys like the Feather Tickler and massage oil like the Tantric Oil Shakti Bottle add spice to the 69er. Massage your partner while licking, or tickle your partner to add some extra fun.

* Remember, the 69 position is about both partners. While at the start it is hard to concentrate on giving while receiving, you will get used to it and love that both of you are in ecstasy at the same time.

* There are other positions to try…these are a couple of common ones to get started.